I once learned from a personal development trainer named Brendon Burchard that if you want to make a significant change, there are going to be 3 costs: uncertainty, judgment from others and struggle. I can’t think of a point in my life other than right now where change has been so prominent. Being in my early 20’s, I’m still used to structure, schedules, and staying inside my comfort zone. I know nothing other than school, but pretty soon I’ll have to move to a big city, who knows where, all by myself. It almost feels like grad school is the last stop before I’m kicked off the comfort bus and forced to walk the streets of life alone (Ok that might have been a little dramatic). I know I’ll meet people and be doing what I love. However, it’s scary to think about change, and it should be. We all need change in order to grow, to keep learning and to reach new potential. We ALL should welcome change into our lives, but not without paying for it.
Cost #1-Uncertainty. Where will this last year of school lead me to? Where am I going to live? What kind of people am I going to work with? When will I stop being just “the intern?” I don’t know any of these answers. All I know is that not knowing is, while scary, a very good thing. I’m a planner. I’m Type A, and I like to know what’s coming. Uncertainty is uncomfortable for me, but I know that I need to embrace it. It keeps life exciting, and it can lead to opportunities I never saw for myself. It’s ok to be uncertain of what the future holds, of what challenges you will face and who will love your pets as much as you do when you’re gone. Just trust that everything will be ok. We need to let go of our closed minds and be more vulnerable. We do that by setting our minds free and letting life take us where we are meant to go….without us consciously knowing exactly where that is.
“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.” -Eckhart Tolle
Cost #2-Judgment from others. This might be the most expensive cost. I know a lot of people who either don’t understand my career choice or don’t think I’ll be incredibly successful. I thank those people, because they give me energy to keep going. I’m sorry to say, but some people just won’t respond well to you changing. They have a narrow focus of who you are, and if you step outside of that they say, “woah! Who is this person?!” The problem is that they only know you based on their past interactions with you, and they don’t see your ability to progress. Social media plays a huge role in how people judge you, especially if you’re in your teens and 20’s. You have multiple platforms to post your “best self” on in order for others to validate you. Unfortunately, they give others a very sugarcoated and small visual of who you are, which makes it easy for them to see you through a narrow lens. Focusing on yourself and your goals will make it easier to successfully change instead of worrying about what others think of it.
“Who are you to judge the life I live? I am not perfect and I don’t have to be! Before you start pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean.” -Bob Marley
Cost #3-Struggle. Change is hard. During summer session, I went into career development to talk to Kelly Barnett about my interest in working at a talent agency. She thought that was great, but she also warned me that I may be starting in the mailroom and working my way up. What?? Two degrees later and I’ll be starting where?? Doesn’t that mean anyone can apply to the mailroom and work their way up? Well, yes. The difference though, is that the skill set that I, and many others, are learning in this grad program is going to help us excel fast. We will have great connections and know how to build long lasting relationships. Getting a degree in the entertainment industry isn’t as significant as what you’ve done and who you know. The best thing we can do is keep an open mind and meet lots of new people. It may mean making sacrifices, taking a step backward and feeling discouraged, but it is going to lead to something amazing.
“Without struggle there is no progress.” -Frederick Douglass
Reading this may make you want to stay away from change, but hopefully it inspires you to embrace it! The biggest thing to be aware of is that it’s not going to be free, and it’s not going to be easy. However, change leads to incredible things. I am excited, scared, anxious and ready to see what those are in the entertainment industry. As Brendon Burchard said, change is “the price of admission to a better life.”